Dating Advice: You Have To Make a Woman Feel

You can buy a woman flowers for the next ten years and it won’t matter unless you make her FEEL an attraction to you. Women don’t care how things work; they care how things make them feel. In all of the romance novels and soap operas women have been devouring since they were kids, the leading males are always untamable, strong men who sweep women off their feet. 

This is the quality that many “jerks” have. Women don’t like the fact that the guy is actually a jerk – it’s just that jerks have a tendency to have more of this primal, uncontrollable dominance that the weaker, “nice” guys don’t have. The sweet guy thing works only when a woman is in desperate need of attention. It can work with some women, but it will only temporarily keep her happy.

They can’t help it fellas. They are simply responding to Mother Nature. Estrogen is a drug that induces feeling. It makes women want and need to feel everything. Testosterone is a hormone of aggression/achievement and dominance. The sooner we realize and accept these facts, the easier time we’ll have understanding the dating world.

Double Your Dating Confidence

The first step to becoming the confident guy you’ve always wanted to be is to close your eyes and imagine every aspect of his character. Without a very vivid picture of who you want to become, you’ll never become him.

I want you to take a moment to ponder each one of these questions: How does he walk? How does he move? What does his voice sound like? Does he hold his head high? How does he dress? I want you to go through every aspect of his character. Get an extremely clear vision in your head of this fictional character. Now I want you to say to yourself, “If I can see him, I can be him”. Take your face and put it on this character. I want you to brand this image into your subconscious. In your mind, get used to walking around like this guy. Get used to talking like him.

Just as you wouldn’t expect to be the best piano player in the world without practicing, you shouldn’t expect to be a “cool”, confident guy without practicing. Become comfortable with the new guy you’ve created. I want you to really embrace the concept that you can be anyone you want. No guy was born a “ladies’ man”. Practice this visualization for at least 5 minutes a day and you’ll become more and more comfortable being this “character”.

Growing Online Dating Relationships

Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.

1.    Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2.    Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3.    Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence. 

4.    Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

Five Tips For Your First Date

Let’s face it…first dates are tough and the majority will end before they even really start. Here is a list the five most important things both men and women should keep in mind. A first date is simply two people getting together to find out more about each other…its an interview where you determine if the other person will be a good fit for you. Many of these things may seem like common sense but you will be surprised with the things some people are capable of.

Top Five Things for Men

1. Listen to your date. Listening to your date is not the same thing as waiting for her to pause so that you can begin speaking).
2. Be chivalrous…yes that means you’ll have to open the car door for them.
3. Don’t get drunk. If you’re not sure you can, just stay away from alcohol all together.
4. Always be on time.
5. Play it safe and stay away from the religious and/or political topics…this can lead to disaster.


Top Five Things for Women

1. Say thank you if he does something nice and/or unusual.
2. If you’re not interested and rather be friends, just say it. The guy may not want to hear it but trust me, it’s better (and easier) now than later on.
3. Don’t get drunk (see #3 for men).
4. Laugh at his jokes even if they are awfull.
5. Make lots of eye contact and smile.

So you got their phone number...now what?

You meet a nice guy or girl and you hit it off. You got their phone number but how long should you wait before giving them a call? 

If you’ve seen the movie Swingers, you know what I’m talking about. Let’s look at some of the possible scenarios you may find yourself in: 

Call Right Away (within the first half-hour) 

How you see it: Just making sure they got home safely; or you just really enjoyed their company and you wanted to talk some more 
How they see it: I just talked to this person 30 minutes ago…what else could they want to talk about? 


Call 3-6 Days Later

How you see it: Didn’t want to seem too desperate and/or wanted them to spend a few days thinking about why you weren’t calling. 
How they see it: They didn’t call because they were trying to look cool; what do they look like again? 


Call 7+ Days Later 

How you see it: Been busy and haven’t gotten around to it…maybe the other person will want me more if I show them how little I care. 
How they see it: Who are you? 


The truth is, if you meet someone for the first time, how likely are they to remember you after a week? Now add drinks into the equation and you’re lucky if they remember you the next day. Call the next day if you want to be safe, wait two days if you enjoy living on the edge.