Love - Why Two People Love Each Other?

Why do two people love each other? Why do we need someone to love? Why cannot we love ourselves and exist alone? And what is that chemistry that a couple loves each other? Why both should love each other, and no body else? Love is truly a mystery.

The first reason is of course the passion one feels for the other. Call it hormones, mind, heart, emotions or whatever, one falls in love with another person and cannot live without him/her. Physical beauty is not the sole criteria in romantic passionate love. A very beautiful girl can passionately fall in love with an ordinary looking man to the surprise of all. There is something more that is yet to be explored. Ask a lover about why he/she loves her beloved and you will never get a logical answer. Love does not measure qualities, nor sets any standards. Love happens.

Sometimes the love arises out of appreciation of qualities of the other. This love is different than romantic love, but can be equally magnetic. You may get attracted to some persons singing so much that you want to be with him/her at all times. It can be any quality, but it is the appreciation of quality that brings forth this love. In this case the love is passionate love with that quality.

In some cases two persons find so many things alike between each other that they believe they are soul mates. Made for each other, these lovers are bound by the common qualities. What ever may be the reason for falling in love, please fall in love because it is incomparable.

Test To Find Out If You Love Yourself?

Most of us are searching for love. We all hear so much about love, watch it in the movies and listen to songs of love. Somehow that kind of love does not happen to us. Whether such passionate romantic love can exist in today's world? That is a big question. Even if you fall in such love, it will phase out after some time leaving a vacuum.

How about loving ourselves? Most of us do a lot of self beating. We regret our decisions, strain our bodies to make achievements, stress ourselves at most of the times about something or else. We give no peace and love to ourselves. Look at a child in the lap of mother. The child is at peace and is totally protected by mother. The kid is totally relaxed. How about mothering yourself?

How about forgetting your worries for a certain period during the day? Just relax and pamper your mind and body? Only relax. Relax and let all the strain go away. Think of nothing. No worries, no tension, no goals, no achievements, no projects, no exams, no promotions. Only yourself. Love yourself for what you are. No criticism. No self beating. No memories of good or bad. Only love for yourself. Let that love Overwhelm you with total peace. Love yourself.

We act brutally with ourselves many times. We don't need others to do that, because we do it wonderfully well ourselves. Are you one of such people? How much do you love yourself?

Love Test - What If You Love Your Friend?

You are friends and you enjoy your friendship. You behave with each other as you do with your other friends. One day you find that you have begun having different feelings for your friend. You like him/her more than a friend and are developing romantic love. What should you do?

You want to tell your friend about your feelings. But you are not very sure about them yourself. Have you really crossed the relationship of friendship and developed romantic love? You are thinking about that and the more you think the more you get confused. Emotions are like that. They can play havoc with us.

After lot of deliberation, you have decided that the feelings of love are true and figments of your imagination. Should you tell your friend? What if he/she does not reciprocate? What will happen to the friendship?

This is a difficult situation. You don't wish to sacrifice your friendship, but if your friend does not reciprocate that will happen. And there is no way of finding his/her feelings indirectly. You have to do it yourself. What should be done? Please ask. Please tell about your feelings and ask if your feelings are reciprocated. If yes, you are lucky. If not, let the friendship suffer. You cannot continue loving someone without finding out your friend’s feelings. That will be much more painful.